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The Plan has hit the UK - and you can get it right here! I'm so excited that The Four Man Plan has found its way across the pond. The most exciting part is, I think you gals really get it and REALLY need it!
From what I hear so far, things are a little different over there. Tell me if I'm wrong, but I've been told that it goes something like this: girl goes to pub or club, girl meets boy, girl and boy drink several pints or shots, girl and boy start snogging or more and POOF! you have a new boyfriend for the night, a week, or however long it lasts. No "dates", no "asking out", no "getting to know each other". Can this be so? I'm sure it's a generalization, and to be perfectly frank, it's not so different from how a lot of folks find themselves in relationships here. But does that seem a bit random? Wouldn't it seem more likely to be a successful relationship if you meet a man by the light of day? I don't know, I kind of think it's a good idea to see if you can have a conversation with someone, and find out whether or not they are honest, loving and willing before locking on. Don't get me wrong, I did it the other way a bunch of times, to my deep misery.
The US 4MPlanners have been using The Plan to a great deal of success. Some find that their love lives are now manageable, make sense, more relaxing and most importantly FUN! And of course, many have found themselves that ideal man, some after just a few short weeks, some after 65 weeks of planning, since the US version came out! Join us in the FORUM, just click that big gray button on the left, and get all the dish, ask your questions and share your stories. I pop in almost everyday to give advice, though it is rivaled by the wisdom of your fellow 4MPlanners.
I'm so looking to hearing from you, I want to know EVERYTHING...and welcome you to the glory of The Four Man Plan! 
4MP n. abbreviation for The Four Man Plan 4(m)p = u + 1 n. the fundamental equation of The Four Man Plan 4MPlanner n. a woman that is practicing The Four Man Plan Cinderella n. the sum of the equation cindy-y+e(2)arl(2) Chick’s Chick n. a woman that honors all women and their relationships Chuck v. to remove a Two and a Quarter Man from The Four Man Plan because his 4MPlanner is sleeping with someone new Dick’s Chick n. a woman who throws herself at married or otherwise monogamous men Half Man n. a Plan Man that a 4MPlanner has had at least 3 dates with and knows that she is seeing other men Mantris Graph n. a square 4x4 grid used by a 4MPlanner to track the progress of her Plan Men postulate n. something that is assumed to be true and that is used as the basis of an argument or theory. Example: Postulate #5 - You Suck at Love principle n. an accepted or professed rule of action or conduct. Example: Principle #1 - The Yes Factor Prince Charming n. a mythical creature whose debunking leads to trauma and drama Plan Man n. any man that is dating a 4MPlanner Quarter Man n. a Plan Man that has had contact but no more than 2 dates with a 4MPlanner theory n. a coherent group of general propositions used to explain a class of phenomena Three and a Half Man n. the Plan Man that can be described as honest, loving and willing and has initiated and has been accepted into a monogamous relationship with a 4MPlanner Two and a Quarter Man n. the one Plan Man that a 4MPlanner is sleeping with Whole Man n. 1. a Plan Man that has spoken the word "love" to his 4MPlanner 2. a Plan Man that has gotten to second base with his 4MPlanner 
Cindy added PRINCIPLE #7: SAY THANK YOU or I'LL SPANK YOU. Read it here then print it out and clip it to your book: Early on, there were some questions about the issue of what to do with a Plan Man after a date. It suddenly occurred to me that I left out a VERY IMPORTANT part of the process. The post-date-follow-up THANK YOU! (Thanks to Rosabella and Divagrrrl for bringing light to this!) SAY THANK YOU or I'LL SPANK YOU PRINCIPLE #7: There are several ways to THANK a Plan Man after a date. Even if you said a heart felt Thank You at the end of your date, it's still necessary to follow up with a bit of goddess graciousness the next day. By order of graciousness, least to most would be: 1) Text 2) Email 3) Voicemail 4) Actual Phone Call 5) Personal handwritten note I would say consider what you WANT to do and then either do that or for extra credit take it one or more steps higher with a TEXTING minimum. For example, if you didn't particularly like him, but he was not The Ickies, and normally you would just blow him off, you must at least TEXT him. If you really liked him and would normally only be brave enough to email, try CALLING. This exercise is about ACKNOWLEDGMENT, another great addition to your 4MP, life, and relationship tool belt. When you acknowledge a Plan Man BE SPECIFIC, use his name, talk about the little details that pleased you about him and the date. Men really love a woman who they are able to make happy. They especially like specifics about what they did to make you happy; it helps us women become less of a mystery and gives men a way to be successful with us. Men are not mind readers and nothing boosts a man's confidence like having his efforts noticed. Push the boundaries of your comfort zone on this one. Acknowledgement, like Validation, feels as great to give as it does to receive once you get the hang of it. |
How does The Four Man Plan change how you think about dating and love?
The Four Man Plan changes your perspective and turns dating into an absolute soul searching pleasure, because it takes the focus away from finding a lifelong partner to deciding what it is you really want. 
Why is it essential men know they are part of The Four Man Plan?
Letting men know that you’re dating but not sleeping with other men does a number of critical things. It lets the men know they are competing and if there is one thing men know how to do, it’s compete! 
